The most difficult step to make in therapy is to take the decision to ask for help. We grow up with the idea that we have to be independent, not to ask for help, and that we cannot be a burden. We think we ought to solve our problems ourselves and that we shouldn’t need other people. We think that things are the way they are and that we cannot change them.
Behind these thoughts we can be hiding resistance or fear. This fear can often be an impediment to our personal growth and to making changes.
For a lot of people making the decision to start therapy goes together with an inner conflict between this fear on the one hand and the motivation and the hope to feel better and freer and to improve the quality of life on the other.
Sometimes it is not enough to talk with friends and we need the help of somebody who is neutral and not personally involved with us who can help us to find a possible answer to our questions or problems.